Do you know what to say when the pressure is on?
Decisions that have lifelong consequences should not be made under pressure, confusion, mixed messages, or doubt. Decide now what is important to you and learn to stand up for yourself without compromising your values.
To refuse sexual advances, try something like this:
- I don’t want to.
- I said “no” and I mean it.
- I don’t sleep around.
- Not everybody is doing it and I’m not going to let you pressure me.
- We can find other ways to express our love.
- Have you thought about the consequences?
- If we do it now, it could ruin our lives forever.
- Why mess up a good thing?
- It’s against my values and beliefs.
- I care about my reputation.
- Yes, I love you, but love isn’t just about sex.
- I want to stay a virgin and save sex for my husband/wife.
- I don’t want to have kids now.
- I have goals and this is not in my immediate plans.
- I want to have a career.
- I thought you were different.
- People will think that I’m “easy”.
- I’ve decided to wait until I get married.
- Not until we’re married.
- I know your reputation.
- Sex can be more trouble than it’s worth.
- I take care of my body and I don’t want to get an STD.
- I do not feel comfortable.
- I’d love to, AFTER marriage.
- All I want to do is hold you.
- I love you too much to have sex.
- I’d rather break up until you can wait.
- I’m more attracted to someone with self-control.
- Right now I just want to be loved, not make love.
- We’re too young.
- I respect my future husband/wife to much to ruin things now.
- Don’t ask me to make this choice.
- It’s not what I want to do.
- With all these diseases going around? I don’t think so.
- It’s not worth it.
- I want my first time to be special AND on my wedding day.
- You’re just using me.
- If you truly loved me, you would not ask.
- Are you ready to be a parent? I’m not!
- Let’s stop seeing each other for a while.
- This isn’t what I had in mind.
- Is that all you think about?
- I want to protect my heart too.